(Excerpt from a CAC Personal Reading, July 20, 1991)
OPENING MESSAGE:
This Awareness indicates that It has, in the past, suggested that the only real sin of significance in the world is that of hurting others; that there are many ways where entities can commit this sin or error of hurting others besides the obvious action of physical abuse.
This Awareness indicates that there are, of course, many types of physical abuse, and in some cases, even those entities who do not consider themselves as being of a violent nature may indulge in physical abuse.
Child Abuse is Defined
This Awareness indicates that It wishes at this time to clarify, for example, a definition of what may be termed "child abuse" in the sense of physical abuse on children.
This Awareness indicates that any time an entity seeks to hurt a child, it is child abuse.
This Awareness suggests that you may spank a child or may give the child a pat on the bottom for misbehaving or for doing something dangerous to itself or others, without the actual intent of hurting the child: this is an action for the good of the child, to help the child understand your disapproval of his or her behavior — but it is an action that does not need to be accompanied by a willful intent to hurt the child.
This Awareness indicates that as a general definition, if you seek to hurt the child in your punishment of the child, then you are abusing the child.
This Awareness indicates that there are times of course, when you may need to deprive the child of certain privileges and have the child isolated from his or her peers or others whom the child may be hurting and this can be called, by the child, abuse, or may be thought of by the child as hurting the child, to remove him or her from the presence of others whom the child wishes to abuse or harm, but it is not the same.
It is an action of disciplining the child without actual abuse. The actual abuse that this Awareness cautions against is that of hurting — deliberately and wantonly — the child.
This Awareness indicates that one cannot likely cure a child’s misbehavior by one big punishment, one big spanking, or one big physical abuse. More likely, a series of constant surveillance and watching and a persistence about requiring a child to behave properly will be necessary to train the child.
If you are persistent in not allowing the child to get by with bad behavior or antisocial behavior, then the child gradually gets the message. If you think that by giving the child a great beating the child will no longer harm his or her little brother or sister, or will no longer get into things that do not belong to the child, you are mistaken. The child will forget the beating and still, because of either forgetting or not caring at the time, may still get into mischief.
This Awareness indicates that beatings do not create perfect children; they generally create troubled children, who find sneaky ways of doing their mischief.
This Awareness suggests, therefore, persistent and attentive disciplining without child abuse, without the intent of hurting the child, can become a modifying action on the child’s behavior that molds toward a more healthy expression.
This Awareness indicates that likewise, with older people, children, or people who are your subordinates, there is no need to physically abuse them or to hurt them. If you can find ways of working with and communicating with them to see that it is to their benefit to act along certain lines of a more productive expression, this will be of greater help to both.
This Awareness indicates that entities sometimes become frustrated and in their anger, knowing they have greater strength, simply give up trying to negotiate and refuse to compromise in order to get along, and rely instead on their own physical strength, trying to force the other person to behave in the manner they desire. This Awareness indicates that this, of course, becomes another expression of abuse, when one seeks to hurt another in order to get them to comply with their wishes.
Psychological Abusers
This Awareness indicates that these forms of physical abuse — and of course there are others that are even more extreme — are of great concern to this Awareness and to society in general. This Awareness indicates it leads to great tragedy in many cases.
This Awareness suggests that still another form of abuse is that which comes from psychological actions, where one hurts another, intentionally or otherwise, through playing with the emotions of another person — often damaging one’s emotions.
This is most notable when one expresses emotions that leave the other vulnerable and open and trusting, and when the entity becomes open and trusting, then the first entity may break that trust in a violent way, hurting the other emotionally so that the person who is risking and trusting becomes the victim of broken trust and violation of the affection which he or she has extended.
This Awareness indicates that this kind of psychological abuse is prevalent in your world and society, and many of the perpetrators of such psychological abuse consider it a kind of game or do not even think twice about hurting others. For them it is, in some instances, just a way of feeling important. They can actually get excitement at having hurt someone emotionally for being trusting, and they feel a sense of power in doing so.
This Awareness indicates the tragedy is not only for the victim of such psychological and emotional abuse, but that the abuser thinks he or she needs to abuse others in order to be important, in order to see themselves as having an importance. But tragically, some entities grade themselves and rate themselves on how many hearts they have broken, how many others they have disappointed, how many they have hurt and they can even sit around and brag about all those who have fallen for them whom they have left in the dust.
This Awareness indicates that there is a tragedy for those who perpetrate such emotional violence on others because they are seeking to gain some kind of self-importance from this, and in the long run they only diminish themselves more and more with each episode. This Awareness indicates that meanwhile, those who have suffered from such violations will gradually strengthen and become more cautious about giving their hearts and lives in trust to another, and such entities may grow more cautious, but if they can still remain to be vulnerable and trusting to some degree, those entities are the much healthier for it.
This Awareness indicates that in time, such entities who are willing and able to risk their emotional well-being in the honor of a relationship, being able to trust another, even if the other is untrustworthy, such entities are the stronger of the two and such entities are the types who will find the greatest happiness through relationships when the right person does come along.
This Awareness indicates that the entity who is so concerned about being the victor in a relationship, seeing the relationship as a competitive game, such an entity is unlikely to ever find a true harmony in relationship.
This Awareness indicates that often relationships are established along these competitive lives, and sometimes these relationships carry on for years, and entities may even marry and form close alliances in which the tug-of-war between them lasts for decades and their marriage is a great turmoil for each of them, because they do not quit in the conflict stage, but if they can get past the conflict and self-serving efforts of the relationship to where they look at the other person and have a sense of protection for the welfare of the other, even at their own expense, then a true and meaningful and very precious type of relationship can develop between them.
When entities begin to support each other, each other’s happiness, each other’s welfare, serving the other for the welfare of the other, then a true and meaningful relationship begins to take form that allows for genuine happiness as the two enter into a wholesome and meaningful relationship.
This Awareness indicates that those who cannot extend themselves to risk being the victim (this is not to say they must be a victim, but they must be willing to risk to some degree the wrath from another) must be willing to risk being a possible victim in the relationship; and each entity does have some degree of strength that would let them risk being a victim in a relationship, and when an entity can take those risks with another person because the other person appears to be trustworthy enough, then the relationship can become meaningful.
This Awareness indicates that if you cannot trust the other person to be the keeper of your heart, to be the keeper of your welfare, knowing that even if the other fails, you have recuperative powers, or the ability to pick up the pieces of your life and carry on; if you cannot risk this much then the other person is probably not the right person for you and you should look around for someone whom to you is more trustworthy.
This Awareness indicates that it is a matter of discernment based on your own tolerance levels. How much abuse can you tolerate from another and still love that other enough to give your devotion? This Awareness is not advocating that entities let themselves be abused, but if you love another, you will automatically suffer some abuse from that entity in some degree in some areas of your life as you relate to the entity. There is always a compromise required; you can never have everything your way in a relationship. It is a matter of give and take.
You give what you are strong enough to give, and you take when you need to take from the other what you must have to continue. This Awareness indicates that in the process of taking, you try not to take more than the other can give. This Awareness indicates that in this manner, a relationship of give and take develops between two people so that each serves the other in areas that each can serve and where each needs the service from the other.
This Awareness indicates that in such a relationship there needs be no physical abuse, there needs be no real psychological abuse. There may be psychological clashes, but neither party needs to desire to harm the other. Neither needs to want to hurt the other. You will hurt each other enough just by your natural inclination to look out for your own interests. When entities begin to deliberately seek to hurt the other, this becomes abusive.
THE EPIDEMIC OF CHILD ABUSE IN DAY CARE CENTERS
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
In reference to child abuse, there seems to be an epidemic these days of rampant child abuse going on in day care centers around the country.
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that these have become the focal point of the concept of child abuse because there have been certain instances where this came to the public attention. It is not so much that child abuse occurs in day care centers any more than in homes, but there have been instances in which the public spotlight has been on day care centers. Many of these situations have been purely imaginary and fabricated. In some instances, there has been actual child abuse.
This Awareness indicates that the greater number of child abuse cases by far exists in the homes of the children.
This Awareness indicates that in day care centers, the practitioners of the day care are more vulnerable to accusations based on fabrication. Any accusation in a day care center calls forth a major investigation, and many times the child simply becoming angry at a teacher will make a false accusation, knowing that the teacher will get into great trouble, and the parents hearing of such child abuse, especially sexual abuse, will go to great lengths to create trouble for the teacher, even without any evidence other than a child’s accusation.
This Awareness indicates that therefore, day care centers are ripe for accusations of child abuse, even if they are not the perpetrators of child abuse. This Awareness indicates that many times, children in any school setting or day care setting will find opportunities to act out some of their fantasies which they learned at home from observing their parents, who are generally indiscreet in their sexual behavior, and thus, children sometimes act out sexual fantasies with classmates when they have an opportunity, and this can lead to other children talking about it and distortions so that the child abuse or sexual activities of a day care center become a matter of gossip which then can lead to distortions and other forms of rumor.
This Awareness indicates that there are greater actual cases of child abuse within the families, rather than in the day care centers, but the day care centers are now the targets of suspicion moreso than are any other establishments.
CHILDREN RAISED IN DAY CARE CENTERS: WHAT EFFECT WILL THIS HAVE ON THEM?
QUESTION:
The television program 20/20 had hidden cameras in some of these day care centers, and they actually showed the abuse of little kids, mainly physical abuse. A lot of children would be crying and being neglected, and some of these women who were supervising them would come over and physically slap them around and so on. I was wondering, I read that something like 80 percent of the mothers are now working mothers and they have to farm their children out. What is this, in the long-term, going to do with these children as they grow up? Is there going to be any significant change from having been mostly raised in a day care center?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that in the sense of the physical violence that is expressed in some of these centers, that this can scar the child emotionally.
This Awareness indicates that you must also realize that children in homes, without ever being involved in day care centers, can also suffer great physical violence; that it is not limited to day care centers or strangers; that physical violence toward children is common in your society.
It is actually improving in the sense of being less prominent in this age than in previous generations. In previous generations, parents, especially fathers, have expressed extreme cruelty towards children (not every family of course, but in many families). They were taught: "Spare the rod and spoil the child." This Awareness indicates that it was almost a religious tenet to feel required to punish the child through physical abuse in order to keep the child spiritually healthy.
This Awareness indicates that this, of course, scarred many children, who then grew up being abusive to their own children. This Awareness indicates that the generations prior to World War II were especially abusive toward children, especially in families that were not well- educated, but even in some of the more educated families, there were still abusive parents.
This Awareness indicates that since World War II there are more single mothers raising children, many of these mothers have become very abusive toward their own children. There is something about the belief or feeling that the child is yours, which allows some entities to feel they have a right to beat or hurt the child, since it is their own child, much the way an entity might feel toward their own dog or eat, or other piece of property.
This Awareness indicates that in the case of teachers and school figures in previous generations, the use of paddles and whips for children was quite common. It has only been in recent years that schools in some states are no longer allowed to have paddles and whips available for punishing children in the schools. It is therefore not surprising that some of the people in day care centers who are not trained professionally for their jobs, or required to have a high degree of training, might resort to their own personal mothering behavior, and resort to the whip or paddle or abusive techniques in managing other children in their care.
Day Care Centers Should be Monitored by Video
This Awareness indicates that it would be helpful if all day care centers could be monitored by cameras so that these cameras could be picked up at any time, the filmed viewed in a kind of spot check by authorities, to determine whether such abuse occurs within that center. This Awareness indicates it would not require that the films be continually monitored or investigated, but that they be continually run so that at any time the authorities could come in and if the cameras were not operating, the school or day care center could be penalized. If, upon checking the cameras, the film indicated child abuse was occurring, then the day care center would lose its license.
This Awareness indicates that this would be one way where children would be more protected in these centers. This Awareness indicates it is not simply the commercial day care centers that need to be watched, but even some of the Christian churches use abusive techniques. There are ways where children can be harmed through physical activities, such as the striking of the fingers with rulers or such; there are ways of harming children so that marks are not left on the body, and yet the pain is severe enough that the child suffers traumatic fear from class instructors, and these things occur even in church schools.
This Awareness indicates that part of the teaching in some church schools is that children need to be obedient, and that if you punish them physically, they may become better people for it. This is not uncommon as part of a "Christian" approach to child-raising. This Awareness indicates that it would be more difficult to monitor church schools by a state using cameras because of the separation of church and state and could lead to conflicts in this regard.
This Awareness indicates, however, that children in all of these day care centers need some kind of protection against overzealous instructors who think that by punishing children they are making better people.
This Awareness suggests that in regard to the commercial day care centers, not part of the church, there is little reason not to have surveillance capability to assure the children’s welfare. In regard to church schools, it might become somewhat more difficult to protect these children because of church/state separation concepts.
This Awareness indicates, however, a voluntary approach might be used in such cases where the church voluntarily allows monitoring of the classrooms so that parents can feel at ease about their child being in their care, and those who do not voluntarily allow this might then become suspected as possible abusive day care centers.
This Awareness indicates that parents would be able to choose whether they wanted to trust the day care center with their child if the day care center refused to be monitored or to have cameras available.
WHY IS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE NOW SO COMMON? (More on Incest With Children)
QUESTION:
It used to be, in the local paper anyway, very rare to read about a case of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse. Nowadays, you can pick up any paper and there is usually at least one account, and often three or four per day. I’d like to ask: Has this always been that way, and it’s just that this type of information is coming out of the closet, so to speak, or is there something more sinister behind this?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness does not quite see what you mean by "more sinister." This Awareness indicates that it appears there has been more promiscuity developing throughout the latter half of this century than existed in the first half, and it has spread even to children being involved as targets of the promiscuity. This Awareness indicates, however, that even in the first half of the century, there was some degree of incest in some families.
It does not appear that incest has become more common in the last half of the century than in the first and that interest in sexual matters of a perverted nature are stronger in the second half of the century than in the first. The morals in the first half of the century had greater influence on society. At that time, such instances of incest or child abuse of a sexual nature were not commonly released to the press or to the public. It was a kind of hidden story. The public did not know of these things.
This Awareness indicates that it was also slightly less common. Now it is more common and it is more easily talked about without as much social stigma, thus it is doubly-exposed, first because it happens more frequently, and secondly because people are not so much afraid of releasing information about such behavior.
IS THERE A SINISTER FORCE AT WORK? (Psychiatrists Must Take Some of the Blame)
QUESTION:
It seems to be such an epidemic. The reason I used the word "sinister" was because it was almost like there was some dark energy or force suddenly at work. Is there anything to that theory?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that mostly it is because secrets that were based on sexual shame have been more or less brought out of the closet by frankness and openness through the effects of a growing psychological influence from Freud and other influences in society that suggest to society that things should not be hidden, but should be made conscious.
In other words, secret shames of the past are now open topics for discussion, and for some entities, if it is something that is open and capable of discussion, some of the entities will perceive it as something to be acted upon.
Thus, in the earlier part of the century, entities might never even think of sex with children, but when society begins to open up and talk about such things, there are always a few who fixate, and become obsessed with the idea and may gravitate toward the obsession of having sex with children.
This Awareness indicates that this is the danger of being free to talk about anything openly; that there are always a few who are easily fixated and can become obsessed with certain concepts which they might not otherwise have even considered, had it not been discussed in their presence.
Thus, psychiatrists, in opening up sex as a topic to be discussed openly in society, have inadvertently contributed to sex being thought about in many different unusual or perverted ways, and some entities being exposed to these concepts simply could not handle them with the same understanding as a healthy psychologist or psychiatrist, and instead may become obsessed and deeply tormented by the concepts which they have heard discussed. They may find themselves so obsessed that they eventually indulge in the fantasies they carry around in their heads.
This Awareness indicates that it is not something that is a sinister force in action, it is rather the result of concepts being opened up for everyone to look at, with the realization that some entities are not capable of looking at some concepts without those concepts affecting them adversely.
WHY SUDDENLY DO SO MANY ADULTS RECALL SEXUAL CRIMES WITNESSED WHEN CHILDREN?
QUESTION:
There’s been a number of examples lately on the television news and some of the tabloid programs of adults who suddenly remember horrifying childhood memories. The memories suddenly return — after a hysterectomy in one case, or for no particular reason in others. For example, a woman, now in her 50s, a witness of the famous ‘Black Dahlia’ murder in Hollywood, by her father; she was ten years old at the time. In another example, a four year old girl who witnessed a neighbor couple brutally murder a silent screen actress, who, suddenly now in her 50th or 60th year. remembers this in detail.
Another woman who remembers at age 50, her father killing and raping her four year old girlfriend. The list appears endless with these sort of dark memories suddenly returning to haunt the entity. Why suddenly are these things happening? Why is there this spate of people suddenly remembering these horrible things that happened in their childhood?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that this is not necessarily a new phenomenon; it is more prevalent because of the current means of communication through the news media –these entities have a wider audience to relate their experiences to. You must remember that 50 years ago, there were only radios, and if an entity had such an experience, it is highly unlikely that they would think to go to a radio station to tell of their experience or to find a radio station that was interested enough to broadcast the story.
This Awareness indicates that in today’s media-centered world, the public is saturated with enormous amounts of information through television so that nothing is really held back if it has any newsworthy value, or if it might be of interest to an audience. Therefore, stories that would not have been printed 50 years ago are now valuable to the media, even if they only get on one of a hundred channels and are only broadcast once on that channel or through that publication.
Because publications are unable to represent all the news, many will represent a fragment of information that can satisfy a fragment of society, and therefore, rather than re-broadcasting the big news of the day, it will broadcast something that will satisfy a small segment of society, but which will, in that satisfaction of society, also sell products for advertisers.
This Awareness indicates that it is not so much a matter of this is a new phenomenon, it is more a matter of it is new for the phenomenon to be broadcast.
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
Does it have anything to do with that planetary movement Awareness referred to some time back where It stated something to the effect that all those things hidden would now be revealed? Would this apply in that area and that might be one reason?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that there are very many outlets now for information to be revealed. There are too many outlets for all ears to hear, for they may be listening to a different channel, a different network, or reading a different newspaper, and may miss the news broadcast here or there on other outlets, but still, the information is being released at enormous rates throughout the world, and with this realization, very few secrets remain.
It is more that, while something may not be a secret, it may not have been heard by everyone. Thus, entities may take information released and rebroadcast it or reprint it or summarize it and send it out again, and reach audiences that have not heard about the information, who were unaware of it, even though it had been broadcast previously.
This Awareness indicates that it is not so much a planetary movement or such, but a matter of how far can so many channels go in releasing information to the masses, when the masses only have so much time to monitor all the channels and information that is being released, but because there are so many outlets for expression, there are also exposes of information that might have otherwise been secret, now being given freely to those who have ears, who are attuned to the channel, who are able to hear by chance or by deliberate effort, the release of these secrets.
This Awareness indicates that as more and more newsworthy information is released throughout the world, the more entities will begin to understand that which has been secret in the past and know of the truth that is being released to them in the present.
REPRESSED MEMORIES SUDDENLY REMEMBERED
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
My basic question had to do with these examples of people now in their middle age who had long repressed forgotten memories of these crimes when they were children, suddenly remembering them. The basic question was: Is there any particular reason now that suddenly people start remembering these crimes? It isn’t so much the media releasing it, but the fact that they remember these incidents, and the police are even re- opening these cases and in some cases have sentenced one woman’s father to jail because there’s enough evidence now by this grown woman who remembered her own father killing her childhood girlfriend. She had witnessed it at the time, but suppressed the memory.
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that it is a matter of the way the memory works; that a traumatic experience is often forgotten and repressed and held in check for many, many years and may come out later when the significance is somehow changed or altered.
In the case of this entity, her loyalty was to her father and to her friend, but moreso to her father, and there was a great shock involved and her memory was repressed and she allowed the instance to be forgotten because it was the only way she could deal with it at the time.
After many years, something triggered the entity’s memory and the whole memory opened up to her. She no longer had a fear of crossing her father; she no longer had the strong loyalty to him that was present as a child, and she had a different sense of justice and rightness, and thus reported the incident.
This Awareness indicates that it is simply a personal thing within her own psyche that repressed it, according to certain values, fears and personal needs, and it was a personal thing that allowed it to come out years later. It is not seen as something mystical or something cosmically influenced by forces or unusual influences.
