QUESTION:
A question from L.K., Denver, Colorado. "This question is about cause and effect along with karma,” she writes. "My mother died last month as a result of an auto accident where another car broadsided their car. As I understand what I have learned in the past, all parties to the accidental death wanted the learning experiences, and in my mother’s case, she also wanted to make her transition or death at this time. Is this correct?"
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that in the case of your mother, this appears to be correct. This Awareness indicates that it does not appear that every instance of death is willed by the deceased; in some cases, entities do not wish to die, and meet untimely deaths. This Awareness indicates that there are many instances where an entity wanted to live, but whose life was cut short, and the entity is so distraught that he stays in the area and haunts the area, trying to resume his life as though he were still incarnated in a body.
This Awareness indicates but in your mother’s case, it appears the entity was in such a state as to have a death wish.
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
Awareness just answered her follow-up question: "Is this always the case? Do all persons want the death transition and/or learning experience from seeming accidents?" Let’s see. She goes on to ask: "Does this also apply to large groups as in the case of airplanes, ships, or even wars, the Holocaust, Bosnia, Rwanda and so forth? Do these people desire on some level to die or to be maimed?”
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates not always. There are some instances in which the entities have certain death wishes, there are some instances wherein the entities have a need to fulfill a karmic debt, and the karmic fulfillment requires their death. There are still other instances in which the entity did not wish to die, did not have a karmic debt, but was taken anyway because someone violated the rules of life and caused an accident or death through deliberate action.
This, of course, creates a karma of its own that will eventually need some kind of repayment by those who violated the right of an entity to live. This Awareness indicates that sometimes an entity in one life creates a situation in which through his own neglect or intent deprives another of his or her right to live. That entity who caused the death may in a future life have his or her life cut short, not because he or she had a death wish, but because he or she had a karmic debt to repay and needed to learn some lessons from the Incident.
If the entity has not experienced complete remorse for having cut short another’s life, then the entity may learn the hard way by having his or her own life cut short in a following incarnation.
THE DEATH WISH: D0 WE ALL HAVE ONE?
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
Some psychiatrists acknowledge the death wish and Awareness has mentioned this numerous times. Does everyone have a death wish, and if so, are they born with it, or do they acquire it on some level?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This Awareness indicates that anyone can develop a death wish; it is not something that is part of your genetic structure. It is something that develops when entities lose hope or fee] unable to fulfill some life wish or life dream or purpose in their lives.
As long as entities have a sense of purpose and direction, as, long as entities have some hope of gaining an improved situation, or as long as entities have a feeling that they are needed by others and are hopeful of helping others, there is not likely to develop a death wish.
But, if these things become tiresome to the entity, if the entity feels that his or her life dreams will never be fulfilled. if the entity feels that there is no further need for them, or meaningful purpose in continuing to live, then the death wish often comes in and it does not take long for it to have its effect and to cause either accident or illness to shut down the system.
This Awareness indicates of course, in some situations, rather than an accident or illness, it may be an incident that shuts down the system.
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
Is an incident being a victim of violent crime, or…?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This is in the affirmative; that being one example. This Awareness indicates that It simply didn’t want to give the impression that only accidents or illnesses could be the cause of death from a death wish, for entities in having a death wish can also bring forth a violent crime or other incident that may not actually be classified as accident.
For example, a suicide would not be an accident, but it could be an incident that results from a death wish. This Awareness wishes to add that if entities lose hope and feel that they are no longer of any value or purpose in their continued living, and if they have more pain or unpleasantness in life than pleasure, and develop a death wish or begin to feel a sense of wanting to die, they can often put themselves and put their death wish on hold, with the knowledge that things change. If they wait long enough, things will change and the situation they have felt trapped in may change and new reasons for living may come. Once they recognize this possibility and temporarily set aside their death wish, things usually begin to change very quickly. They may wish to take a vacation, a change of scenery, and it can be extremely beneficial to them, so that within a matter of days or even hours the death wish may no longer be with them.
How to Help Entities With Death Wishes
They may wish to live. They may find something new of interest to them, and they may pursue something of interest. It is important to help entities to look forward to something of interest, because in looking forward, entities are not inclined to have a death wish. If they have nothing to look forward to, they often look back and see everything as being over, and then have a death wish, where they look forward to life on the other side, or to no further life at all.
This Awareness indicates that if you can give them something in this life to look forward to, they are quite likely to avoid death wishes. Most entities have a death wish before dying and if you wish to prolong their life, give them a reason to live, something to look forward to, and some kind of hope for a better future for themselves.
You may also help them by giving them a sense of purpose, informing them that you or their children, or someone needs them. If it is not too long, too late, the entities can sometimes recover from an illness. If the entity has had a death wish for some time, and the illness has grown strong and progressed far, you may not be able to turn around the effects of a death wish.
This Awareness indicates that entities need to be sensitive, to notice when people’s hopes have been dashed, when they would not likely have anything to look forward to, and especially when they feel they are of no longer any value to others. If you witness this, if you are sensitive to this potentially you may wish to make some suggestions or help the entity to regain a sense of purpose, a forward looking enthusiasm about the future.
INSTEAD OF "GOOD-BYE" SHE SAYS: "I’LL BE SEEING YOU SOON!"
FOLLOW-UP QUESTION:
The idea of promoting people to be forward looking brought to mind a pattern that I’ve had and I’ve always thought it was sort of odd, whenever I’m in a conversation with somebody, when it’s time to say good-bye, I always fee] the desire to point to the next time I’m going to see them. I’ll say, "Well, we’ll see you next week!", or "We’ll see you Monday!" or I always close with something that leads into the future. Is this related to this somehow?
COSMIC AWARENESS:
This is in the affirmative. This Awareness indicates it is a way of reconnecting with the entity in the future, to help make sure that there is a new connection, that there is a new contact with the entity. This Awareness indicates it is a form of courtesy and also a form of security in the relationship, helping to make the relationship secure by making an agreement. This Awareness indicates that it is a very good policy because if you have an agreement to meet someone in the future, and they have some kind of setback and feel discouraged, if they remember your agreement, they are likely to at least wait until the appointment is completed before taking any suicidal action, for example. This Awareness indicates, however, if they are contemplating suicide and you say you will meet them at a certain time and you don t show up, it can be the final straw, where they feel further depressed, let down and useless, as though no one cared enough even to keep an appointment with them. This Awareness indicates that this can, of course, cause the entity who misses the appointment to feel very guilty if their friend has committed suicide shortly after the appointment was broken.
Appointments and Commitments: Always Keep Them
Therefore, in saying "I will see you next week!", it is important for entities to do everything possible to keep the appointment or to notify them if there is to be a change. This is another reason why it is important for entities to keep their word and to be responsible in either keeping their word or letting others know why they have had to break their word.
Appointments or commitments show entities how much you care for them. If you do not keep the appointment and do not let them know why you broke it, it implies that you don’t really care for them. You did not even remember or did not care to follow through on your commitment.
This Awareness indicates that many entities make commitments and make appointments, but something comes up and they can’t make it easily, so they say "Well, I just couldn’t do it", and assume that the next time they see the person they will explain "I couldn’t do it. I had to get my hair cut and my aunt was coming over and she cuts hair, so I had to wait until she got there to have my hair cut", and this, to some entities, would be a good enough excuse, even if it comes too late.
Such entities are more concerned about themselves than about the fact that their friend was left standing and waiting They do not care that the friend was left standing and waiting, they only care that the friend was not mad at them for having stood them up, and if they have a good excuse, they feel comfortable with the situation because their friend can’t be very mad at them if they had to have their hair cut by an aunt who was coming over.
This is a common way of viewing commitments and appointments which many entities today will break, where their main concern is whether the person whom they stand up will forgive them rather than whether the person is having to stand and wait somewhere and miss out on other activities or other things that could be done while waiting for you, and wherein you know you are not going to show and do not have the courtesy to let them know, or do not take the time to inform them that you are not going to show.
Their concern is "Don’t be mad at me." The concern is not, "Oh dear, I’m leaving this person standing on the corner or waiting at this place for me and I’m not going to show." This Awareness indicates that this is the concern the entity should have. "I am causing another to put themselves out for me, and I am not going to show", but the entity’s concern is "Oh, I hope the person is not angry that I am standing him up, or I am standing her up"’
This Awareness indicates that if this concern that the other might be angry is your main concern in breaking an appointment, you have a problem. You have a problem in your relationships with others, and you need to re-examine your priorities, your values and your concerns and obligations and question whether you should even make appointments it you do not intend to keep them or notify entities when you decide to break your appointment.
